Herman said the court should have gone even farther. “We got married in Boston. We live in Florida. And Florida doesn’t recognize gay marriage. And so we would not have those rights. I think that is outrageous.
“I’m angry. But I think that’s what’s going to be worked out,” she said. “I think it’s outrageous that some people have rights and others don’t because their states are backward.”
Herman said the couple wouldn’t leave Florida, even though they’d enjoy some benefits in New York or Massachusetts that they wouldn’t in Florida.
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“Life is comfortable here in Florida, and it’s hard to move when you’re old,” she said, adding the couple has many friends in Palm Beach County.
She said it would be a mistake to leave “rather than duke it out. Because I think it will change here. Leaving won’t change things, where as staying and talking to people will.”
Herman isn’t concerned about people on the other side of the battle. “They sound shriller and shriller, the bigots,” she said.
Nate Klarfeld of Fort Lauderdale has mixed feelings.
“The Supreme Court decision fell short,” he said because same-sex marriage is not legal in Florida.
“If anything this was a huge call to action. We’ve got a lot of work to do. Marriage equality is just one part of the puzzle for full rights,” he said.
“I take all of this really personally right now,” he said, explaining that he and his partner (described below in update from Wednesday morning) have three grandchildren.
“I want them to grow up and look at our relationship the same way they look at their other grandparents. But we have an asterisk by our name. I want marriage. I want those kids to grow up in a world and look at our their family and know that we are looked at in the eyes of the law and society as equal.”
Patty Harris of Oakland Park (profiled below with Klarfeld) said she is elated.
“I feel elated that the Supreme Court has made a fair and just ruling, that they’re getting this one right, the righting of wrongs. They’re setting the law straight,” she said. “I feel elated for the moment. However I feel as if the journey isn’t over, the fight isn’t over, the struggle isn’t over.”
“While we made tremendous progress on the federal level, we still have a lot of work to do on the state level. There are 37 states that haven’t joined equal marriage and that fight needs to continue and that debate needs to continue,” she said.
Stephen Muffler, 46, a Fort Lauderdale lawyer, said Wednesday was a good day.
“Me and my husband are equal now, at least on the federal level, and we’re overjoyed by that,” he said.
Still, he said, “it’s going to be another journey.” Federal agencies have many rules in determining many benefits, and state laws in Florida aren’t affected.
“It’s not clear that this decision is going to vest me and my husband with as many rights as everybody else has,” he said. “Over time, it’ll happen.”
He and Lisandro Depaula have been together nine years. In March 2012, they were married in New York City. Muffler took Depaula’s name, which is reflected in the marriage paperwork, but that’s not recognized by Florida. He said that’s the kind of issue that will now be litigated.
“Now we have momentum. [The Supreme Court opinion in the DOMA case] “is something that people are going to be able to use and cite now. It is very inspiring now to see five Supreme Court justices use the equal protection argument saying you can’t discriminate based on sexual preference in marriage.