Christmas is for people of all faiths

The columnist recalls his late wife's affection for the holiday.

SACRAMENTO — My wife was an atheist who loved Christmas.

She loved the giving. Loved the smiles on the grandkids' faces.

Loved decorating the tree.

Really loved the big old, bright Christmas tree in Capitol Park.

Loved the food and made a scrumptious clam chowder.

Loved all the trappings — except the Christmas music. Wasn't wild about that. But did like some non-religious holiday tunes.

Nereida might not have wanted me to mention any of this. Religion or lack of it was no one else's business. People could believe whatever they wanted. Made no difference to her.

But I like the message: Christmas is for everyone, not just Christians. It's a universal holiday for caring and fellowship.

The U.S. Census Bureau reports that 173.4 million adults in the United States describe themselves as Christians. There also are tens of millions of non-Christians.

There are 2.7 million Jews, 1.3 million Muslims, 1.2 million Buddhists and 582,000 Hindus. There are 42.2 million people who say they have no religion or refuse to answer.

And there are about 2 million agnostics and 1.6 million atheists.

Nereida was no agnostic. She wasn't ambivalent. She was an atheist.

But she wasn't one of those atheists with a capital "A" who complained about manger scenes at the courthouse. That was a fine tradition. Gave people a warm feeling, like a nice Yule log.

If she had lived in Santa Monica, she would not have joined other atheists in forcing the removal of Nativity scenes from Palisades Park. Same down in San Diego, where atheists long have been trying to haul a 43-foot cross off the top of Mt. Soledad.

She considered such things a waste of time and money, a misplaced priority.

Nereida just couldn't bring herself to believe in a god. What god would allow such unfairness in the world? The killing of little children by an armed lunatic?

Religion, she believed, was a self-survival invention of humans to rationalize their ultimate demise and keep themselves in line. The latter hasn't always worked, she'd point out. But it probably has helped.

She wasn't a zealot about it. And we seldom discussed the subject. She knew I was a believer — believed in a higher being we could turn to for guidance and help. But it was nothing to argue about.

Whatever helped people get through life, fine — whether it be faith in a god or marriage for a gay couple.

They say there are no atheists in foxholes. Far as I know, Nereida still was one while fighting for her life before succumbing to bone marrow cancer last June.

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