Dear Amy: My mother is a sensitive, shy person who loves children but sometimes has trouble connecting. In particular, she has trouble connecting with my son, "Oscar." She only visits every three months, and she loses track of what sorts of things he's into. He's 10.
We asked mom to take care of Oscar for three days, and she did. On the last day, she asked him to do some homework. He replied, "You don't know anything about me, and you don't know anything about my parents, and I think you should leave me alone."