Dear Amy: During our 20s, 30s and 40s, my wife and I traveled to see our parents, who were in their 50s, 60s and 70s, during the holiday season — and at other times.
We burned vacation time to see family without thinking twice.
Now we are retired. Our kids are in their 30s and 40s, with children of their own. They visit maybe once every five years. They tell us that if we want to see them, we will have to travel.
They say they are too busy (just as we were). They say visiting us is a financial strain on them (just as it was for us). They say they don't want to waste vacation time, and that traveling with their kids is hard.
We know all of...