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Elderly mother's friend pressures her to donate money

Elderly mother's friend pressures her to donate money

Dear Amy: My husband and I manage my mother's finances. She's 88 years old. After my father died a decade ago, she began to donate to dozens of charities, beyond what she could afford. Anyone that solicited her typically got a donation. In some cases, there were recurring donations coming from her checking account that she didn't even remember setting up in the first place.

We had her select the charity that mattered the most to her, and shut off all other donations.

Her neighbor of 30 years, "Mary," is an aggressive fundraiser for her church social group. My mother was always Mary's first stop when she was looking for donations. One of the largest...

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