Dear Amy: My partner "Mike" and I have been in a relationship/cohabiting for many years. We go to his mother "Peg's" house for holiday meals. She cooks the entire dinner, which is very nice.
However, she smokes cigarettes while doing so — before, during and after — and after being in her home (even without her lighting up), one exits reeking of smoke.
I have asthma, and even with medication it is barely managed. My partner has not asked his mother not to smoke around me because he thinks she would take offense. Honestly, she probably just really wants to see her son and wouldn't miss me very much if I weren't there.