Dear Amy: When my late father was ill, I always appreciated hearing comments from friends who visited dad, since I didn't live with him.
It helped me adjust the level of care and change what I did for him.
I've had two occasions during which I noticed some concerning things about the parents of two of my friends. I shared my observations with these friends, and both did not receive it very well.
Mostly they were shocked to find out their parents were exhibiting odd behavior or had such strong dementia they could be a...