Have you started your holiday gift shopping yet? If so, you must be among the 37 percent of people who have already bought most of their gifts by Thanksgiving.

According to results of a survey for Taubman Centers Inc. (one of the country's leading shopping center developers, which owns and manages Westfarms mall), nearly 40 percent of those surveyed have already wrapped up shopping. A full 47 percent of women say they've done most of their shopping; 13 percent wait until the week of the holiday to shop.

Whether you've been naughty or nice (in terms of holiday shopping), there's no denying this is peak stress season for consumers. Starting Friday and continuing through the post-Christmas sales, retail spending is up. So are the frustrations.

That's why Westfarms mall merchants have just the thing to help you survive the holidays. Here are some of their suggestions for shoppers looking for a bit of relaxation and kindness during this hectic season:

Breathe deep: "Soothing Escape," an aromatherapy set, contains a soothing candle and bath salts. $25 at Aveda.

Make yourself useful: The holiday edition of "The Worst-Case Scenario Survival Handbook" is chock-full of handy holiday tips that are both practical and hilarious. Examples: how to extinguish a Christmas tree fire; how to silence a group of carolers; how to stop a runaway one-horse open sleigh; how to evade a stampede of shoppers (perfect for Westfarmers). $14.95 at Discovery Channel Store.

For Buffalo gals (and guys): At some point during the Christmas season you'll curl up in front of the TV and watch "It's a Wonderful Life." It's an instant tonic for the crazy times. $14.95 at FYE.

Think pink: The world always looks better through rose-colored glasses. So if you feel the bah-humbug coming on, slip on a pair of these. $8 at Claire's.