Experts, and parents, agree that moving and deployment are the most traumatic transitions in a military child's life.

Dozens of organizations and website resources have been created to help make those transitions a little less daunting for child and parent. Here are some tips from military experts on how to handle the stress.

Charles French, school liason officer for Fort Monroe

- The school liason officer can be your first line of defense when you find out you're moving to a new town. Each base has its own officer (in every branch), who can help you slog through the differences in educational logistics between school districts and states.

- The officer also can put you in touch with a military family life consultant, who can help with any social issues or concerns that may arise during the moving process. (Difficulty fitting into a new school environment, bullying, etc).

- Use the website militaryk12link.com to get information on any school district in the country

- Use the website militaryimpactedschoolsassociation.org to find out about education requirements for each state and how they may differ from your child's current plan.

"We have all the resources you'll need and we can connect you with the right people," French says.

Trina Laverty, clinical counselor of the Fleet & Family Support Center in Norfolk

- Laverty counsels children from ages 3 to 18. Signs of a bad adjustment to deployment or a move include a decline in school performance, continuous reports from teachers, fighting, etc.

"Parents know their children and any change from previous functioning is a bad sign," she says.

- To help kids cope, help them identify and vrebalize what they're feeling. Try to put words to what they're going through.

- Teens tend to talk to friends more than their parents, so counseling can be a good option for older children who may need a neutral party to talk to.

- Parents should keep in close contact with the schools, both the guidance counselor and the teachers, if possible.

- See if the local school has a deployment group for kids who are going through the same thing.

- Don't tell younger children the news about a move or a deployment right when you hear the news. They aren't able to process time elements. "If you tell the younger ones about a deployment three months in advance, they just have three months to worry and build up anxiety," she says. "Don't wait until the last minute, because you want to give them time to prepare, but make it a reasonable amount of time."

- Take advantage of pre-deployment programs for children where the kids get to see where their parents work and what they'll be doing during the time that they are away.

- Use maps and calendars during the deployment to pass the time. As the end of the deployment nears, fill a candy jar and allow the children to take out one piece per day. When the candy is gone, the deployed parent will be home.

- Teens are likely to become angry before a move. Listen.