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Julia and Dan Foster with Emma, from left, Jack and Max. (Beth Rooney, Photo for Tribune Newspapers / March 24, 2013)

Julia Herrmann was single, living in the South Loop, and increasingly frustrated with her romantic life. After yet another failed relationship, she was ready to give up hope when her uncle, who is one year older than she is ("It's a big Catholic family," she explained) told her that he met his girlfriend online.

This was 2007. Julia, a dance teacher, had never ventured into cyberdating but decided to give it a shot.

"I really did want to try and find a decent relationship," recalled Julia, now 32. "So I was hopeful that I might finally find a person to do that with." So she joined eHarmony.

Among the thousands of Chicago-area members was Dan Foster, who also happened to live four blocks away. He had been on eHarmony for eight months and enjoyed meeting women on the site.

"You can get a basic understanding about who a person is," said Dan, also 32, "and what they are about before meeting them just randomly on your own."

Julia, however, didn't see it this way — maybe because she couldn't figure out how to use it. She answered all the questionnaires to help the site find her prospective dates, and when she finally completed them … just five matches popped up.

"I was like, 'How in the world, with all the people in Chicago, do I only have five matches?' " Julia asked.

Impatient and annoyed (and not realizing more matches would eventually show up), she considered the candidates she got. Yes, Dan was among them. And she decided he seemed the most normal.

So Julia messaged him. "I'm new to the site, and I only have five matches," she recalled writing. "I'm wondering if something's wrong with the site. Can you tell me how to fix it?"

Dan had received many emails via eHarmony in the past, but never one asking him to help a woman meet other guys.

"But I'm always one to take advantage of the situation," he said cheerfully, adding that he checked out her photos and thought she looked like a fun person since she had three different hair colors in her four pictures. "I wanted to come to the rescue and help her work the website."

And so their correspondence began.

"I said that since she only had five messages, then she was so unique and special that she only had five people match to her in the whole city," he said.

Julia, still feeling bad about the five hits, was not amused. Then Dan asked her out on a date (good!), but canceled (bad!), saying he had to go to the suburbs with his father to return a car.

Julia didn't believe him, and she was both right — and wrong. Dan really was helping his father return a car, but that's not why he canceled; he wanted to take Julia out in style but couldn't afford it.

Instead he settled for daily phone calls and emails to help her find prospective matches online. A friendship developed. Unbeknownst to Dan, Julia had lost interest in the site after connecting with him.

"I looked at some profiles but still didn't understand it and didn't want to deal with it," Julia said, "so I just kind of assumed that I would meet Dan, and if it flopped, I'd start all over again."

She didn't think it would flop. Julia was attracted to Dan's closeness to his family and friends. Dan, for his part, loved that Julia was so loyal to everyone close to her.

After six weeks, Dan took Julia to Opera, the now-closed restaurant in the South Loop. After dinner, they went back to Julia's deck to watch the summer fireworks. After that, they were inseparable. "We literally went out every single day after that for three weeks straight," she said. "It went really fast."

They had been dating for five months when Dan proposed. The first time.