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In workplace relationships, do less to get more

Q. I'm very loyal. Even breaking up with my insurance company for a better rate makes me sad. At work, I often stay too long in relationships that cease to benefit me. How can I be more realistic in evaluating the relationships to invest in and those to do less for with my intense loyalty?

A. You can balance your loyalty and your self-interests by grieving that your loyalty will rarely be returned or appreciated in your workplace. Save your intense attachments and loyalty for your healthy and intimate relationships or you are setting yourself up to feel unappreciated.

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