Daneen Skube

Don't provide rewards for entitled co-worker

Q: I work with a co-worker that is so entitled. He does not make requests, he makes demands, then gets furious if he does not get what he wants. We are all seriously sick of his tantrums. How can he not be aware of how alienating his behavior is? Also, how can I stop having to fight with him and make him see the world doesn't revolve around him and his needs?

A: He is not aware of how alienating his behavior is because he lacks empathy. Empathy is a capacity that allows us to be aware of our impact on others. You can stop fighting with him if you can accept he does not have empathy and stop rewarding his tantrums in any way.

My clients often think that telling an entitled...