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Daneen Skube

Bully-proof yourself at work

Q. I work with a guy that everybody is scared of because he is an aggressive bully. Even management doesn't want to fight with him. Why is it that the bad guys seem to win in the workplace? How can I deal with someone who is a professional tyrant?

A. The short-term fix in dealing with professional bullies is to refuse to reward their behavior by giving them what they want -- and at all costs avoid them. Be comforted in knowing that in the long run they will create their own downfall. The trouble is that it can take a while for their cruelty, intimidation and narcissism to catch up with them.

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