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Daneen Skube

Hate the flakes who won't commit? Force the issue

Q: People who won't commit drive me crazy. They seem to think I'm waiting in suspended animation -- just in case they decide to follow through! Is there a strategy to get flaky people to either make a commitment or leave me alone? I'm so tired of organizing my schedule around people who won't make a plan and won't go away, either. A: I teach clients two tips for getting flaky people to stop dinking around on commitments. First, always set up a drop-dead date (after which you are no longer available). Second, always create a reward and a consequence to get flakey people to follow through. The drop-dead date is a way you can escape should a flake not make a...