By Nara Schoenberg, Tribune Newspapers
June 26, 2013
If your last name is Glah, odds are that you're closely related to Michelle Glah McCleary, of Denver, Colo.
McCleary's maiden name, Glah, which derives from a misunderstanding when her family immigrated from the Glahn region of Germany, is extremely rare in the U.S., and McCleary values its uniqueness. So when she got married this year, she decided to keep it as a middle name.
"It's a cool name and it's also who I am. I've identified (myself) that way for 30 years," McCleary says.
The practice of women keeping their last name as a middle name after they marry has quietly taken hold in the U.S., where studies show that 90 to 95 percent of married women take their husbands' last names.
There were likely very few maiden-to-middle name changers in the 1970s, according to Penn State University senior lecturer Laurie Scheuble, who has studied marital naming. Studies from the 1990s indicate that between 3 and 25 percent of married women were using their maiden names as middle names.
About 18 percent of women at the marital-name-change website http://www.MissNowMrs.com have taken their maiden names as middle names in the past six years, says founder and President Danielle Tate.
"It's definitely on an upward trend," says Tate, whose website has had 153,000 paying customers since late 2006. "Virtually no one is hyphenating anymore."
The modern practice of retaining maiden names as middle names can probably be traced to the women's movement of the 1970s, says genealogist Sharon DeBartolo Carmack. Examples include Hillary Rodham Clinton.
There were scattered examples before that, including the pioneering 19th-century feminist Elizabeth Cady Stanton, child star turned U.S. diplomat Shirley Temple Black and Coretta Scott King. But the practice doesn't appear to have been widespread, says Carmack, and the considerations were often practical: Either the woman had made a name for herself before marriage, or she wanted to emphasize her ties to her well-known birth family.
Today, the switch is often related to family loyalty, says Weddingbee.com Editor-in-Chief Cathleya Schroeckenstein.
"We want to figure out how to honor our families," says Schroeckenstein, who plans to use her maiden name, Geefay, as a middle name when she has children. "It's especially an issue for women who come from families with all daughters. I'm an only child, and my two cousins are women. It's a very heavy burden to realize that if we don't do something, this is the end of our maiden name."
Retaining maiden names as middle names is also part of a broader trend toward marital name customization, Schroeckenstein says. Hyphenation, which had a moment in the 1980s (think Farrah Fawcett-Majors) is often rejected as awkward and impractical, but some couples combine last names to form a single name.
In the 1970s, the discussion surrounding marital name change was, in part, political. Why, feminists asked, should women give up their names as opposed to, say, the other way around? But Tate says that that argument may not compute today.
"(This generation doesn't) even fathom not being an equal partner in their relationships," Tate says, "so changing their names isn't as weighted as it was decades ago."
Making your maiden name your middle name was rare before the 1980s but not unheard of.
Coretta Scott King: The civil rights leader kept her maiden name as her middle name when she married, as her mother did before her. She also nixed the "obey" vow from her wedding ceremony, according to biographies, including "Coretta Scott King," by Stephanie Sammartino McPherson.
Elizabeth Cady Stanton: Determined to have a marriage of equals, the 19th century suffragist also skipped the vow to "obey" and used her maiden name as a middle name, Deborah Kent writes in "Elizabeth Cady Stanton."
Harriet Beecher Stowe: The "Uncle Tom's Cabin" author married a progressive theologian who once wrote to her, "You must be a literary woman. … Write yourself only and always Harriet Beecher Stowe, which is a name euphonious, flowing and full of meaning," according to "The Limits of Sisterhood: The Beecher Sisters on Women's Rights," by Jeanne Boydston.
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