June 20, 2012
Hoping that first date turns into a second — and the all-important third? If the opinion of thousands of singles bears any weight with you, heed these dating turnoffs from a recent survey conducted by dating website HowAboutWe.com. Following are the top 10 first-date turnoffs from more than 100,000 singles who were asked, "For me, the biggest first date no-no is..." (There's not always a breakdown on gender but for a few of these, you can probably read between the lines.)
Remove phone from vicinity. The No. 1 most offensive thing on a first date, survey respondents said, was seeing a date on a cellphone or texting.
First date sex? Forget about it. Women were more likely to say that attempting to have sex on the first date is an unforgivable faux pas. (Hmm, apparently, the men didn't feel as strongly? Go figure.)
Nobody cares about your ex. An equal number of men and women reported hating ex-talk.
Late grates. More than 15 minutes was unacceptable, the respondents said.
Show the waitstaff some love. Being rude or mistreating a server is a major red flag.
Sobriety is a plus! One out of 10 singles said drinking too much on a first date was a misstep.
Fellas, pick up the tab. Like it or not, splitting a bill or letting the woman pay wasn't kindly received; having the guy pick up the tab was more acceptable than splitting it.
Glad you have a job, but ... Save shop talk for your boss.
Yes, your mother loves you. Keep it to yourself and leave her out of the conversation on the first date.
Talk about marriage — with anybody but your first date. Men reported being twice as turned off as women by wedding talk.
Our takeaway: Although we fess up to having committed some of these "felonies" ourselves (hey, mom is a great gal!) and that true love can probably survive any of them, there's another lesson to keep in mind. If you really dislike your first date, who's stopping you from committing all 10?
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