By Amber DiNenna, McClatchy/Tribune
February 21, 2012
Depending on the particulars of the divorce, a person might feel insecure, lonely, reserved or just plain sad, making the need for solitude strong.
However, this is one of the worst times to isolate yourself. It is important to make an effort to maintain some semblance of a social life. According to the Yale Medical Group (yalemedicalgroup.org), social interaction improves both physical and mental well-being.
Do your best to keep a positive outlook. Your life has not ended just because your marriage has. There are plenty of opportunities to take advantage of. Here are some positive actions you can take:
Establish a social routine for yourself as a single person. This can be as simple as having a meal with a friend or walking the dog with a neighbor. It is important to maintain social relationships and adjust to the new energy of being single instead of part of a couple.
Ask friends and family for help. Give those who love you the chance to provide what you need. They can offer you emotional, physical and spiritual help that will go a long way in helping you re-establish your confidence.
Find your passion. It is easy to become immersed in a marriage and divert yourself from activities that excite you. Treat this time of new singlehood as a chance to rediscover what you're passionate about. Joining a pottery class, dance class or even a book club could net some wonderful new friends and a needed sense of belonging.