If you’ve got a kid with no sense of urgency (does any kid actually have a sense of urgency?) you’ve likely let him be late for stuff or even miss stuff in order to teach him a lesson. Can’t find your karate belt? No karate for you today.
Even though we forget it sometimes, it’s a parent’s job to teach our children to learn how to do things on their own so they can grow up and go live someplace else. Part of that is making them accountable for their own things and letting them manage their own time.
Blah blah blah. Yesterday morning was no time for a teachable moment. As I watched the clock and heard The Teenager slooooowly get himself ready to take the SATs, I broke every rule I’d made for myself in terms of encouraging independence. We’d paid the same amount of of money for his SAT prep course as I spent on my first car. No joke. I bought a really cheap car. And it was a really expensive course. So there’s no way I’d let him miss the test or show up without some necessary object.
“Would you like me to sharpen some No. 2 pencils for you?” I asked in the same sweet Mommy voice I might have used on his first day of preschool. “How about a snack? Do you need fresh batteries for your calculator?”He’d better not get used to this. From this point on, we’re back to Tough Love Mom who really doesn’t care about the consequences of forgetting gym clothes or black socks on concert nights.