Relationships

Relationships

Love, friendship, family -- we all have relationships in our lives. Here are some of the Tribune's best stories about those relationships.

Social Rx: How to recover from five classic faux pas

May 8, 2013

Social Rx: How to recover from five classic faux pas

It was the first week of my first job, and one of my co-workers was showing me around the building.

How to handle multiple moms

3:46 PM EDT, April 30, 2013

How to handle multiple moms

Mother's Day should be simple. Dad helps kids make homemade cards and serve mom breakfast in bed. Or everybody takes her to brunch and calls it a day.

Missing Mom and Dad

April 17, 2013

Missing Mom and Dad

You figured it would always be this way: you, all your brothers and sisters plus their kids, gathering for holidays or summer barbecues much the way you did when your parents were alive.

 Marriage counseling: Saving, or sabotaging, a marriage

6:02 PM EDT, April 9, 2013

Marriage counseling: Saving, or sabotaging, a marriage

Couples counseling, marriage therapist Pat Love says, is "like assembling an airplane in flight." Highly stressful. Highly volatile. Potentially explosive.

Navigating the family vacation

April 3, 2013

Navigating the family vacation

When Keith Bellows' firstborn, Adam, was 18, his idea of getting outdoors was "opening a window," Bellows says.

Screen drama

3:26 PM EDT, March 26, 2013

Screen drama

For many couples, their only time together is in the evening, when they plop down in front of the TV. And argue. Over control of the remote, over what to watch, over the volume, for crying out loud.

'Tween daughter likes raunchy tunes

3:38 PM EDT, March 12, 2013

The Parent'Hood

'Tween daughter likes raunchy tunes

Parent advice

Bitter, not better

March 6, 2013

Bitter, not better

Not all bitterness is bad for you. Jen Lancaster's fury over being fired in the 2001 dot-com bust led to a personal blog that launched her career as an author, starting with the acerbically humorous chronicle of her financial/identity crisis, "Bitter is the New Black" (NAL Trade, $15).

Love in the time of GPS

February 27, 2013

Love in the time of GPS

Danny Boylen, a personal chef in Washington, D.C., was enjoying a cigar at a rooftop bar one summer evening when he wished for some company and — poof! — it appeared.

Won't you be your own valentine?

February 6, 2013

Won't you be your own valentine?

Let's cut to the chase, sweetheart: Valentine's Day begins at home. True, Feb. 14 falls on a Thursday this year, which may present a challenge — or not! Here are a few ideas we have to address the age-old question (paraphrased, of course): How do I love me? Let me count the ways!

Getting from heartbreak to happy

February 6, 2013

Getting from heartbreak to happy

What becomes of the broken-hearted?

What's behind the lies?

January 29, 2013

Lessons for Life

Jen Weigel: What's behind the lies?

Recent headlines involving Lance Armstrong's doping confession to Oprah and the Manti Te'o Internet girlfriend hoax have us wondering what it is that leads some people to lie. So we turned to experts to help explain what might be happening inside the heads of those who tell lies.

How to write a love letter

February 6, 2013

Life Skill #14

How to write a love letter

Sometimes, a sexy text message will not do. Sometimes, you must set pen to paper to confess your love in passionate prose — because, really, people don't do that enough anymore, and sometimes we need to hear it.

Perfectly miserable

February 6, 2013

Perfectly miserable

As an educational consultant, Ana Homayoun interacts daily with teenage girls and the adults tasked with mentoring, educating and shaping them.

Dating in an age of multiple divorces

January 16, 2013

Dating in an age of multiple divorces

With divorce rates in the U.S. consistently reported at 30 to 50 percent, odds are pretty good that anyone on the dating scene is dancing, dining and moviegoing with someone who has been divorced, and often more than once.

What are men really thinking?

January 1, 2013

What are men really thinking?

Wondering what guys really think? A good source might be Miguel Almaraz, co-author of "WTF Are Men Thinking? 250,000 Men Reveal What Women Really Want to Know" (Sourcebooks).

 Why can't we share?

January 16, 2013

Why can't we share?

As the season of gift gluttony, parking lot insanity and checkout line lunacy fades to a distant memory, it's worth contemplating a nagging and perennial question:

Are you a niceaholic?

January 27, 2013

Are you a niceaholic?

You could always count on Kathy Church. When friends called to vent, she would pick up the phone. When there was a crisis at work, she'd dig in. When family members got together, she'd show up no matter how much she didn't want to.

 How to understand body language

January 23, 2013

Life Skill #316

How to understand body language

Sure, your bosses like you. But although their lips are saying, "We greatly respect you as a valued team member," other parts of their anatomy are saying, "You are a toad. Go away."

Website helps adult kids play matchmaker for a parent

December 6, 2012

Website helps adult kids play matchmaker for a parent

When entrepreneur Matt Connolly's mother asked, "Why don't you help me find my knight in shining armor?" he was glad to help. But as he researched online dating, he wasn't impressed.

Navigating the holidays after a recent divorce

November 14, 2012

Navigating the holidays after a recent divorce

Bringing relatives together any time can be tricky, but when a new divorce is involved, holidays can be a minefield.

Talking about old flames: Playing with fire?

November 7, 2012

Talking about old flames: Playing with fire?

Forgive the unpleasant reminder, but chances are your partner has an ex or two or 20. And, chances are, at some point your conversation will turn to past relationships, sending you through a minefield of old flames and broken hearts.

Surfing for romance on campus

3:09 PM EDT, October 9, 2012

Surfing for romance on campus

In theory, college campuses are bursting with romantic potential, filled as they are with young, beautiful, like-minded peers. But with classes, homework and resume-building activities, not to mention all those hours killed on Facebook, you might never meet the soul mate living two dorms down.

Love lessons from the Boomers

October 3, 2012

Love lessons from the Boomers

Baby boomer marriages are having a best of times/worst of times moment.

Looking for friends in all the right places

September 26, 2012

Looking for friends in all the right places

In a neighborhood cafe with seasonal salads and creme fraiche tea cake, Rachel Bertsche is demonstrating the friend-scoping skills she honed while writing her bestselling book, "MWF seeking BFF: My Yearlong Search for a New Best Friend" (Ballantine).

Age gap: She's old enough to be his ... wife

September 19, 2012

Age gap: She's old enough to be his ... wife

When he moved to Los Angeles, Charlie Capen, 20 at the time, could have joined his friends hitting the clubs. Instead, he fell in love with a woman eight years older, an age difference that has provided far more benefits than challenges — except for one thing.

 Women and power

September 11, 2012

Women and power

Forbes' recent annual list of the 100 Most Powerful Women reminds us how far women have come — and how far society has yet to go.

Navigating the waters of tricky moral dilemmas

September 14, 2012

Navigating the waters of tricky moral dilemmas

In the 12 years that Randy Cohen penned "The Ethicist" column for The New York Times, the nation lived through three presidents, 9/11, two wars, a tanking economy and seven iterations of "The Real Housewives." And yet ethical quandaries changed very little.

Single? Boy, are you not alone

3:52 PM EDT, September 11, 2012

Single? Boy, are you not alone

Did you know the third full week of September (this year, Sept. 16-22) is "Unmarried and Single Americans Week"? Originally launched in the 1980s as National Singles Week, the move to celebrate single life was renamed because many unmarried Americans (the widowed, for example) don't consider themselves "single."

Minding your e-manners online

September 5, 2012

Minding your e-manners online

Managing your email extends beyond cleaning out your inbox.

First vacation: Ticket to romance -- or ruin?

August 29, 2012

First vacation: Ticket to romance -- or ruin?

Test. Milestone. Fantasy. Romantic upgrade. Uplifting adventure. Crash and burn. A couple's first trip away together can be any of those. Some trips can go from bad to worse. Some can go from bad to better. And some are just delightful.

A surprising new look at arranged marriages

August 22, 2012

A surprising new look at arranged marriages

In the United States, we think we know about arranged marriages: Your relatives choose your husband or wife, or present you with a limited pool of candidates, thereby diminishing your options and, ultimately, the chances that you will live happily ever after.

Breaking the bashful barrier

August 15, 2012

Breaking the bashful barrier

After mustering the courage to ask out a woman he met in a grocery store candy aisle, Christopher Gray's lifelong struggle with shyness got the best of him on the first date.

Meeting an old flame? Coffee is safer than lunch

August 15, 2012

Meeting an old flame? Coffee is safer than lunch

If you're meeting an ex-lover, plan on coffee instead of lunch if you hope to keep the peace at home.

Pull down the shades, pull out the toys

3:32 PM EDT, July 24, 2012

Pull down the shades, pull out the toys

Moms aren't the only ones riding high on "Fifty Shades of Grey." Sex toy sales are surging as more couples add handcuffs and riding crops to their repertoire.

 Making a case for a spicier sex life

3:52 PM EDT, July 17, 2012

Making a case for a spicier sex life

A great cultural irony of our day, says New York-based sex counselor Ian Kerner, is that hot sex is in our faces but perhaps not in our bedrooms. In a survey on his website GoodinBed.com, 50 percent of respondents said they were somewhat or extremely bored in their relationships, sex being the prime source of their malaise.

Interracial marriage: Mixing in matching

July 11, 2012

Interracial marriage: Mixing in matching

In January 1999, at the dawn of the online dating era, BlkBeauT met SoCalGuy on a Yahoo! Chat room — she, hoping her username would let suitors know she's African-American; he, assuming he'd found a fellow admirer of a favorite childhood film.

Tickets to coveted event could win that coveted date

July 11, 2012

Tickets to coveted event could win that coveted date

Some incredibly compelling dating advice came to us via Tumblr from Peter W. Knox, who recently proposed to his girlfriend, Andrea.

Online sharing: How much is too much?

3:28 PM EDT, July 3, 2012

Online sharing: How much is too much?

Whether it is photos, personal status or unwanted comments, most Americans think people "overshare" personal information online — and a third admit not everything they post is true.

First date deal breakers

June 20, 2012

First date deal breakers

Hoping that first date turns into a second — and the all-important third? If the opinion of thousands of singles bears any weight with you, heed these dating turnoffs from a recent survey conducted by dating website HowAboutWe.com. Following are the top 10 first-date turnoffs from more than 100,000 singles who were asked, "For me, the biggest first date no-no is..." (There's not always a breakdown on gender but for a few of these, you can probably read between the lines.)

Tips for the single, dating dad

June 12, 2012

Tips for the single, dating dad

As a single dad wading back into the dating pool, Daniel Ruyter was surprised how many women lost interest when he revealed, always in the first conversation, that he had a son.

Kindness in action

June 5, 2012

Kindness in action

When Stephanie Whitson's husband succumbed to cancer in 2001, just a few years after she lost both of her parents and her best friend, she found herself on the other side of grief.

How to get over the one who got away

May 30, 2012

How to get over the one who got away

Everyone has that ex-boyfriend or girlfriend who is hard to let go of.

Can college hurt your marriage prospects?

April 3, 2012

Can college hurt your marriage prospects?

Men who go to college are more likely to get married. Women who go to college are more likely to get married. It seemed like a small leap to assume that people from disadvantaged backgrounds who go to college are more likely to get married.

Beyond chemistry: Science of relationships

March 27, 2012

Beyond chemistry: Science of relationships

For years, answers to the questions that turn lovers into loathers have been hard to come by, at least ones that are rooted in research rather than hunches. A new book, "The Science of Relationships" promises some "Answers to Your Questions About Dating, Marriage and Family" (Kendall Hunt) that are drawn from the studies of 15 university researchers nationwide.

Lovelorn liars online

March 28, 2012

Lovelorn liars online

Fibs are common in online dating profiles. An inch taller, a few pounds lighter, and you might just get that first coffee date. But liars beware: Subconscious quirks in how you write a profile may give you away, according to a study published in February in the journal Communication.

Welcoming a dog into bliss of married life

March 22, 2012

Welcoming a dog into bliss of married life

When a couple moves in together, it's not just the people who must adjust. If either partner has a dog, it's important to help a pet adjust to the combination of two households.

A breakup book for the heart left behind

March 6, 2012

A breakup book for the heart left behind

It's not the Bible you swear on, but many an ex-wife may find herself swearing by "The Breakup Bible: The Smart Woman's Guide to Healing From a Breakup or Divorce" (Three Rivers Press). In it, psychotherapist Rachel Sussman uses her decade-plus experience to counsel women through the grief and confusion that often accompany the end of a relationship. We recently chatted with her about some of the book's guiding principles.

Materialism can take a toll on marriage

February 28, 2012

Materialism can take a toll on marriage

When both spouses focus solely on the "for richer" part of their marriage vows, there could be trouble, according to a recent study by Brigham Young University and William Paterson University.

Let's call the whole thing off

March 6, 2012

Let's call the whole thing off

During the four years they were dating, Anne Milford wasn't sure she wanted to marry her boyfriend, but she certainly wanted to want to. He was a nice, responsible, successful professional. She was watching many of her friends take the plunge.

Next-door nemesis

February 14, 2012

Next-door nemesis

Even the best neighbors — the c'mon-over-for-a-cookout neighbors, the we-baked-you-some-brownies neighbors — can infuriate you.

Disability and desire

February 7, 2012

Disability and desire

Life is divided into two phases: the one in which you're not supposed to be having sex and the one in which you're supposed to be having more sex.

Navigating the dating scene when you're young, and widowed

February 7, 2012

Navigating the dating scene when you're young, and widowed

The dating scene is difficult for most to navigate, but widows and widowers have even more hurdles facing them. They have to allow themselves enough time and space to grieve, avoid comparing love interests with their late spouses, release guilt when embarking on serious new relationships, overcome disapproval from family and friends, and ultimately embrace the right to love and express feelings for two people: the deceased spouse and the romantic relationship.

5 things you should never do on a date

January 31, 2012

5 things you should never do on a date

One first date ended when he got so drunk he went in for a kiss and knocked her off her bar stool. After she regained consciousness, he skipped out on the bill — only to reappear in the parking lot, begging forgiveness: "Don't blame me! Blame the Prozac!"

Tips for a post-divorce social life

February 21, 2012

Tips for a post-divorce social life

Depending on the particulars of the divorce, a person might feel insecure, lonely, reserved or just plain sad, making the need for solitude strong.

Spying in the name of love

January 24, 2012

Spying in the name of love

When Patricia Masterson's boyfriend broke into her email account in search of evidence that she had been cheating, she was deeply offended by the violation of her privacy. The fact that she had, indeed, been cheating hardly seemed like a good excuse.

How to make yourself attractive to anyone

January 17, 2012

How to make yourself attractive to anyone

When you're single and dating, odds are you spend a fair amount of time worrying about your looks. It's a troubling worry, because, you know, we were all born with Angelina Jolie genes, or … without. Fortunately, science, has some really good news.

When your kids dislike the new love in your life

January 18, 2012

When your kids dislike the new love in your life

The biggest test when remarrying is how your fiancee will fit into your family. What happens when your children are unwilling to accept your new love?

Prescription for heartache

January 10, 2012

Prescription for heartache

With close to 2 million Americans dependent on or abusing prescription painkillers, a growing number of families are redefining their notions of what a drug addict looks like.

Warning signs your new love is not over his ex

December 27, 2011

Warning signs your new love is not over his ex

Everything is going great, except one little thing. You're not sure your new boyfriend is totally over his ex. Sure, it's a nice sign that he can maintain a great relationship with his ex, but how can you know it's not something more?

Tips to avoid breaking up over money

December 20, 2011

Tips to avoid breaking up over money

Money spats are annoying, repetitive and can be a cause of divorce.

What not to say on a first date

December 13, 2011

What not to say on a first date

On a recent dinner outing, the conversation came to a screeching halt when the 42-year-old man sitting across from me announced:

An original proposition

December 6, 2011

An original proposition

After five years of long-distance dating, during which they traveled some 300,000 miles to rendezvous in more than 25 cities, Danny Patel knew he wanted to propose to his girlfriend, Tanvi Kamdar. He just didn't know how he wanted to do it.

Starry-eyed lovers

4:00 PM EDT, October 18, 2011

Starry-eyed lovers

No offense to Virgos, but Victoria Floro is pretty sure it won't work out.

Ready for a baby?

1:00 AM EDT, September 14, 2011

Ready for a baby?

On May 22, 2009, a little less than three years into his marriage, Michael Goodwin addressed a letter to his not-yet-conceived child, explaining why he wasn't ready for fatherhood.

Divorce yourself from marital anxiety

September 27, 2011

Divorce yourself from marital anxiety

Psychotherapist Mark Pfeffer's 30-something clients share a common source for much of their anxiety: marriage. They fret about finding the perfect person, losing their independence, being the last of their friends to be paired off. They want kids, yet look at the 50 percent chance of misery and don't like the odds.

Balancing between love and work

September 6, 2011

Balancing between love and work

In "I Don't Know How She Does It," which opens this month, Sarah Jessica Parker's character bolts frantically from demanding job to loving husband to her two kids — the quintessential "have it all" woman who ends up having everything halfway.

Marriage? Let me think about it

August 16, 2011

Marriage? Let me think about it

At 36, Kristy Litz has watched most of her girlfriends marry and alight to the suburbs to start families.

Sharing a life — but not a bed

September 8, 2011

Sharing a life — but not a bed

As the fairy tale goes, a couple in love sleeps entwined while only a spouse in trouble gets banished to the couch. But for some happy couples, sharing a life doesn't have to mean sharing a bed. Depending on which poll you look at, up to a quarter of couples who are married or living together sleep separately — not due to strife, but because they slumber better solo.

Here comes the bawdy bride-to-be

July 12, 2011

Here comes the bawdy bride-to-be

When Annelise Normand helped plan her friend's bachelorette party earlier this year, she stayed away from the tiaras, drunken trolley rides and strip clubs that have come to define the last hurrah of the American bride.

Gay marriage problem: What if you don't want to?

July 13, 2011

Gay marriage problem: What if you don't want to?

As New York stood poised to become the latest state to legalize same-sex marriage, Michael Koresky felt the pressure deepen from friends and family eager to see him and his boyfriend of six years tie the knot.

Financial infidelity

February 11, 2011

Financial infidelity

Of all the ways to cheat on your spouse or partner, fibbing about finances may seem like the least of all evils.

Lifeskills: How to end a relationship

May 22, 2010

Lifeskills: How to end a relationship

There is no easy way to break up with a significant other. But you can be kind about it. Linda Young, a counseling psychologist based in Bellevue, Wash., offers advice on how to break up with someone as humanely as possible. Young is on the board of directors of the Council on Contemporary Families and runs the "Love in Limbo" blog on Psychologytoday.com. —Alexia Elejalde-Ruiz

Making marriage thrive

May 1, 2010

Making marriage thrive

Charlie and Linda Bloom, relationship therapists living in Santa Cruz, Calif., came close to divorce a couple of times during their 37-year marriage.

Finding your missing piece

March 28, 2010

Finding your missing piece

I belong to a class of people who might charitably be called overthinkers — who, when confronted with (gasp) making a decision, will kill any semblance of clarity by bludgeoning it with what ifs.

5 wedding myths, busted

June 8, 2011

5 wedding myths, busted

Wedding bells cause enough headaches without the noise of outdated or misguided rules. Here are five wedding myths that happy couples and their guests can banish from their to-do lists to save money, time or grief.

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