The Telltale Signs That You Are Not Interesting

I was recently going through our piles of review-copy books when I came across one called "How to Be Interesting" by Jessica Hagy.

Could this topic be fodder for a column aimed at baby boomers? Probably not, I thought. I mean, if a boomer isn't interesting at this point, well, that ship has kind of sailed.

But then it occurred to me, hold on. Who's to say you're not already interesting? And how do you tell if you are interesting or not interesting?

There are numerous signs:

Do people often nod off when you are talking?

Is it common for the person seated next to you at a dinner party to drink to the point where they pass out into their entree?

Has your therapist ever fallen asleep during a session?

At cocktail parties do people tend to drift away after you joint their circle until it is just you and another person who at some point says, "Hold that thought I'll be right back," and then you see them with their coat over their head sneaking out the back door?

Did you stop talking to yourself because you found yourself a drag?

Did you think it was about you the first time you heard the country song, "When I'm Alone I'm in Bad Company"?

Have you ever been going through hundreds of books in a bin when the one that jumps out at you is called "How To Be Interesting"?

Interesting, of course, is in the ears of the beholder. Someone you can listen to all night, may be someone else's nighty night.

There are also people who don't even have to be interesting to hold your interest.

The boss is a good example. When the boss is talking you always find what he is saying interesting, mostly because there might be a quiz.

For their part, men find women displaying cleavage incredibly interesting, although the level of eye contact may suggest otherwise.

Anyway, if you have a sense that you are not interesting, or want to be even more interesting, "How toBe Interesting" offers many practical tips, my favorite being "embrace your weirdness."

That said, for anyone considering a pursuit of a new, more interesting you, I would offer this advice: Please don't talk about it. To do so will be counterproductive.

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