A defense of the stay-at-home mom, a.k.a. SAHM

New York magazine's article "<a href="http://nymag.com/news/features/retro-wife-2013-3/" target="blank" style="color:#2262CC">The Retro Wife</a>," about how feminists are bucking their NYC careers in favor of becoming stay-at-home moms, ignited a fierce debate. <br><br>

Is feminism the <em>opportunity</em> to make the choice between having career versus becoming a SAHM? Or is feminism the pursuit of equality, in which both men and women have the same opportunities in the workplace? Or has the concept morphed into a hybrid of both? <br><br>

At the time, <a href="http://articles.latimes.com/2013/mar/20/news/la-ol-the-feminist-housewife-vs-beyonce-20130320" target="blank" style="color:#2262CC">I argued</a> that if a woman chooses to pursue a career, her gender shouldn't become an obstacle, whether she has children or not -- just like her male colleagues. Yet if she chooses to stay at home, we should support the decision -- just as we should when men become stay-at-home dads. But I also included this caveat, via feminist icon Beyonce, who <a href="http://www.gq.com/women/photos/201301/beyonce-cover-story-interview-gq-february-2013#ixzz2O7CI8IsI" target="blank" style="color:#2262CC">told GQ</a>: 
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"I truly believe that women should be financially independent from their men. [...] Let's face it, money gives men the power to run the show. It gives men the power to define value. They define what's sexy. And men define what's feminine. It's ridiculous."<br><br>

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( Alex Nabaum / For The Times )

New York magazine's article "The Retro Wife," about how feminists are bucking their NYC careers in favor of becoming stay-at-home moms, ignited a fierce debate.

Is feminism the opportunity to make the choice between having career versus becoming a SAHM? Or is feminism the pursuit of equality, in which both men and women have the same opportunities in the workplace? Or has the concept morphed into a hybrid of both?

At the time, I argued that if a woman chooses to pursue a career, her gender shouldn't become an obstacle, whether she has children or not -- just like her male colleagues. Yet if she chooses to stay at home, we should support the decision -- just as we should when men become stay-at-home dads. But I also included this caveat, via feminist icon Beyonce, who told GQ:

"I truly believe that women should be financially independent from their men. [...] Let's face it, money gives men the power to run the show. It gives men the power to define value. They define what's sexy. And men define what's feminine. It's ridiculous."

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Five disheartening moments for women in 2013
For women, it's not a glass ceiling but a plugged pipeline
Quiet the LGBT backlash: Beyonce's album empowers us all

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