Sure, these independent wives got their backbone, in most instances, because of the Women's Movement and the acceptance of women working outside the home. Perhaps this 21st century approach to coupling after 50 reflects yet another chapter in this grand experiment.

But maybe, just maybe, men and women are learning there is more to love than marriage and coupling.

There is a network of love, Trafford says. She's talking about the people you can't imagine living your life without - friends, family, lovers.

"You need about 10 of these people," she says. "If you get to three or below in your life, you will have health and isolation problems. It's really important to have a sense of the team."

A team of lovers. I like that. They make your heart happy.


(Jane Glenn Haas writes for The Orange County (Calif.) Register. E-mail her at


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