Did you know that sex is supposed to be fun?
Sometimes it seems as if many couples have forgotten this simple fact of life.
There's an old joke about the three types of marital sex - there is house sex, bedroom sex, and hallway sex.
House Sex - This is when you are first married and sex is brand new and exciting. You have sex frequently in many locations in the house.
Bedroom Sex - This when some of the newness has worn off thought sex is still good and fun. Just a little less frequent and limited to the bedroom for the most part.
Hallway Sex - This is when sex is infrequent and no longer fun. This is when a couple passes each other in the hallway and says "blank you!"
THE NON-HUMOROUS TRUTH
The non-humorous truth is that for most couples sex begins to diminish and even fade into nothingness as the years roll on.
The sad part is that is does not have to be this way! I've coached many couples over the years to return to a fun, frequent and enjoyable sex life even when it had been years since things were good between them.
A STARTING PLACE
One of the ways couples can re-create a fun environment for sex is by simply holding each other under the covers in bed while naked. That's right, just hold each other. For many people that have gone a long time without sex, the notion of having sex again is too much to handle at once.
This allows folks to begin to get comfortable with each other again. The other nice benefit is that as you do this a few times the sexual tension can begin to build, and become stronger and stronger.
This is just one way in which couples can return to having frequent and fun sex.
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(Jeff Herring, MS, LMFT, is a marriage and family therapist. E-mail him at firstname.lastname@example.org or, for more tips and tools for living you can visit www.JeffHerringOnline.com. For information on great relationships visit http://www.AsktheRelationshipCoach.com.)
(c) 2009, Jeff Herring
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